What might help?
Be flexible and creative about how you communicate with your child as they grow older – any conversation is better than no conversation. Continue to let them know you are someone they can trust.
Take comfort from knowing that your teenager’s behaviour towards you isn’t personal, and that their ability to think rationally, make good judgements and feel empathy is lowered during adolescence.
Most young people don’t find teenage years easy! Cast your mind back – did you? Try to remind yourself though, that their brains are busy undergoing important changes and that they need to break away from the family to grown into an independent adult.
Get to know what pushes your buttons and what pushes theirs. Try to avoid these ‘push button’ situations or practise walking away when things get heated if you can.
Still worried and concerned?
Because our teenagers’ behaviour is changing so much and can be unusual it might be hard to know whether to be alarmed or concerned. And it can also be hard to know if and at what point you or your teenager might need extra support with behaviours that you find upsetting or troubling. Certainly, if their behaviour or what they are telling you is concerning over a prolonged period of time it could be time to talk this through with someone on a helpline or to seek some support for them (and you).
Take a look at our What’s in North Yorkshire for me? page to see what support is on offer locally, or browse the suggested links below. You may also be interested in our Sexual Health page, for information on what sexual health services are available in North Yorkshire.
Sleep Support Scheme
The Sleep Charity has been commissioned to provide a pilot sleep support service for children and young people in Scarborough, parts of Ryedale and Whitby.
The sleep service includes providing online one-to-one sleep clinics and developing sleep plans with parents/carers to help address sleep issues and establish a regular night-time sleep pattern. All families will have follow-up support and where needed, will be referred to primary and secondary care for any medical investigations.
The Sleep Charity will provide appropriate sleep advice and support for parents/carers of disabled and non-disabled children aged 12 months to 18 years of age. Those with a Special Education Need or Disability and/or Education Health Care Plan will have access to the service up to their 25th birthday.
Families can self-refer or speak to their GP. Referrals can be accepted from the 12 practices formerly associated with NHS Scarborough and Ryedale CCG and those in the Whitby area, for children age 12 months upwards, by telephone or text to Claire on 07568 052300 or by email to firstname.lastname@example.org